Open letter to all parents, kids, teachers, etc

(CNN) -- During the last afternoon of her life, 15-year-old freshman Phoebe Prince was loudly berated in the high school library and she was taunted again as school let out, court documents say.

To every student, teacher, school admin, and parent reading this:

Can we PLEASE stop calling this type of behavior "bullying" - it's ABUSE.

And it needs to STOP.

Who is raising the kids who behave like animals at our schools??? Where are the teachers? You know what, I can visit my daughter's school during the day, or even after school in the parking lot after school, and I can hear bad language, see girls half-dressed and boys with their pants around their ankles (that's all for another post, though)... So how is it that the teachers, admin, and PARENTS did not see what was going on in this case???

Or did they see it and now that the girl is gone, only worry about covering their own butts.

Look at the beautiful 15yo girl in the picture below - Phoebe Prince - now DEAD because she was tormented relentlessly over what - - - - ?

a boy she dated & some other girl got mad. Really?

Girls - do you really want to cause someone to take their own life because you're an insecure girl who didn't get the boy you wanted?! You think it's fun to be mean to others - really?? You think you're tough & cool because you talk trash to some other girl?? Newsflash: YOU'RE NOT COOL. You're sick, and you need to reach out to an adult who can help you with your anger management issues - and this is NO joke. Do you think your friends are your friends because they love you? Probably NOT, they are scared of you. Do you want friends that are afraid not to be, or do you want people who genuinely LOVE you to be your friends? Only YOU can make that decision and turn your life around... Do it today, before it's too late.

As Beth Moore says "Meanness is power to those who have none."

Think about it the next time you want to talk to or about someone in a negative way at school. Meanness only means you don't have any power to control yourself. Is that how you want to be remembered after high school? And trust me, the ones that really KNOW you - they WILL remember. Only you can make those memories great or horrible.

It's all up to you.

What if the girl below were your best friend, or sister, or cousin...

REMEMBER THE GOLDEN RULE, ANYONE???

Rush Week

My daughter is in her high school sorority, and this is the beginning of Rush Week. I have mixed feelings about this process, mostly because I don't see the point in dumping buckets of NASTY stuff (leftover food/drink) all over your friends... but then again, I'm old. LOL

Yesterday was the official start of Rush Week - a week full of dressing up your "Little Sister" in all sorts of goofy outfits, making her do silly things at school and in public, not letting her use shampoo or shave all week (UGH! for that reason alone, I would never participate!). Some girls are much meaner - they don't let their Little Sisters shower/bathe AT ALL, all week long. Some make them shower outside in a bathing suit with the cold water from a hose. Every Big Sister has their own list of Rules, which are written in a book which the Little Sister must wear around her neck all week. Not adhering to the Rules means you get a black mark for each offense. My daughter got 6 last year because she was caught shaving and using hand soap to wash her hair. Personally, I'm proud that she refused to go all week without these things!

I'm glad that she has the chance to participate in the group activities like this, even if I don't "get it". It's a good bonding experience, and teaches lessons in trust and kindness IF you get a good Biggie (as I said, each Big Sister is different, but my daughter isn't going to be really mean to her Little Sister - just silly). Plus, it's just downright FUN for the girls, a chance for them to be silly and goofy and have an "excuse" to be so.

Maybe we ladies should have our own form of Rush Week.
I know I could certainly use a week of goofiness sometimes!
What do you think?